“It said that teenagers get enraged very easily. I can relate to that statement, so how do I express anger in a productive way such that my point gets across, without hurting the other person? Is my anger always justified?”

Anger is a natural emotional that can manifest itself in many ways such as abusive language,physical violence, or bullying or alienating another person. If a person harbors ill-will towards others for an extended period of time, this could lead to depression or self-imposed isolation.Neither set of responses is conducive to a person’s faith-based identity. So, the question becomes: “What should a Muslim do when they feel anger?”

The Prophetic advice tells us to deal with the issues triggering anger in a timely fashion – not to let the feeling of anger linger or fester. The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) taught us to sit down when we feel anger. If the feelings of anger persist then we should lie down. If still angry, a person should make wudu’ and pray to reconnect the mind and body and attempt to achieve a state of psychological balance. Second, if the situation requires dialogue, then we should be careful not to speak in a state of anger, as we often will say something that we later regret. In a moment of anger, our brains are filled with blood which means we can’t think clearly in that moment. Let the feeling of anger dissipate before speaking. Sometimes writing out a response is better to help us sort out our feelings before responding

In this respect, Allah (سبحانه وتعالىٰ) reminds us to use the best of speech when addressing people even if arguing or debating in a heated manner: “Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of those who seek guidance.” (Quran, 16:25).